GETTING OUT is a story of hope.

Carly was a strong Christian and senior in college the first time she felt attracted to another female. At first, they were just friends, then quickly became best friends. Then it got really complicated. Carly was determined to keep their lesbian relationship a secret until she could figure out what God was doing or how to get out of the mess. . . or when to come out. But she was stuck between two competing loves: Jesus Christ and her girlfriend. Both wanted her heart, body and soul; both promised forever. For eleven years, Carly chose her. But the haunting of the Holy Spirit made peace and happiness complicated.

GETTING OUT is written for Christian women seeking to confront their same-sex attraction and emotional dependency. This memoir offers heart-level insight, biblical truth, and reflection questions for women struggling in the chaos of disordered affections. GETTING OUT is also a great resource for family and friends who are praying for their loved ones to return to the Lord. Through Carly’s raw honesty and compassionate words, she shares her story of rebellion and the deconstruction of her faith. Then she tells us how God powerfully intervened, restored her happiness in Him, and how she wages war in her ongoing battle for sexual and relational holiness.

In GETTING OUT, Carly boldly proclaims that freedom from the power of lesbianism is possible. And worth it.

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Endorsements for GETTING OUT

Matt & Lauren Chandler

Lead Pastor, The Village Church

“Carly bravely shares her raw yet hopeful story of Jesus’ relentless pursuit of her heart, what she’s learned in the middle of it, and what she hopes for others who find themselves in a similar place.”
Ellen Mary Dykas

Women’s Ministry Coordinator, Harvest USA

“For thirteen years I’ve discipled women who need help walking in freedom from unholy same-sex relationships, and all that is usually involved: misplaced hopes, emotional dependency, idolatrous desires, and pain. Getting Out is simply one of the best books I’ve read on this topic because of three things Carly does so beautifully: she’s transparent about the real-deal of this experience as a winsome storyteller, she weaves in discipleship wisdom for the woman who struggles, and finally, this book is completely saturated with Jesus and God’s word! God helped her get out and has brought her into a spacious place of freedom, joy, and obedience. Read this book and you’ll find a caring sister to guide you on your path.”
Jared C. & Becky Wilson

Assistant Professor of Pastoral Ministry at Spurgeon College
Author in Residence at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary

“Carly’s story and her honest reflections on it makes for an insightful and penetrating look at the complexities of deception and their only real antidote- the riches of God’s grace.”
Bonnie Scasta

Women’s Ministry Director
Living Hope Ministries

“Getting Out provides HOPE for those struggling with their sexuality within the Christian community. This beautiful story of redemption shows how God pursues his children wherever they are to bring them back to Him. Not only will Carly’s story encourage you if you have questions about your own same sex attractions, but also if you know and love someone that is wrestling with their sexuality. Above all, this work displays the truth of the Gospel and its power to transform lives regardless of what a person may be struggling with.”
Elizabeth Woodson

Bible Teacher and Minister
The Village Church Institute

“Getting Out is a book that is written with honesty, courage, and compassion. Combining her life journey with biblical wisdom, Carly Hope reminds us that freedom is found only in Jesus Christ. With practical and detailed insight, Carly explains how the gospel shapes our sexuality. Her gracious candor gives readers a deep understanding of God’s love for them and the beauty of finding their identity in Him. As image-bearers we exist to bring glory to God with the fullness of our being, and this book charts a course to help readers reach that goal.”
Jason Thompson

Executive Director
Portland Fellowship

“Getting Out is a much-needed book that speaks both Christ’s love and biblical truth to women struggling with same-sex attractions and emotional dependency. Although written for women, this biblically grounded book will educate pastors and church leaders and speak to the heart of hurting parents, family, and friends whose loved ones have embraced a homosexual identity.”